Feb 21, 2007 7:20 pm US/Central
To Meet Your Mate, Expand Beyond Bars And Clubs
by Dennis Douda
(WCCO)
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Instead of hitting the bars and clubs, experts say talking to strangers may be easier for some inside a bookstore. (File)
CBS
Where's the first place most singles think of connecting?
If you said a bar, you are likely aiming for what Dr. Phil calls a "target-rich environment," but a recent survey found only 2 percent of men and 9 percent of women met someone at a bar with whom they later ended up having a relationship.
"I don't think people go to a bar looking for a long-term relationship," said one woman in Minneapolis.
Instead, the findings of the book "Sex in America: A Definitive Survey" reveal that 63 percent of married couples actually met through mutual friends.
"If you're friends with someone and they hook you guys up, then you know they probably have pretty good character," said another woman in Minneapolis.
Dating experts say expanding your circles of contact is the first step to new connections. Then, you have to talk to strangers, so consider the sort of strangers you'd like to meet.
If literary conversation is your thing, book stores are natural environments for sparking lively talks. If you think animals lovers have a certain cuddly quality, hit the dog park with your best friend.
Fitness clubs are a natural setting for those who like to keep their physical form in peak condition. Singles hanging out in coffee shops may also be looking for something more stimulating than caffeine.
Another suggestion: browse for more than hammers and lumber at home improvement stores. Women can approach men with construction questions, and men may notice women not wearing a ring.
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